I walked downstairs the other night to tell the girls it was time for bed. As I made my way into the kitchen, I overheard the TV show they were watching. In the span of 15 seconds the show talked about porn, sex, and threesomes.
Uh, WT actual F?!
I walked up to them on the couch. They’re both cuddled up together and snuggling, which warmed my heart for a minute. But then the show continued to talk about porn and that broke me out of reverie.
What the hell are you watching?
G looks up, knowing why I am asking and says “it’s PG, Mom.” She turned back around, but I sensed the eye roll.
Yeah, big fat no from me. Since when does a PG rating include discussions on porn and threesomes? I mean, I know the 80s had some questionable ratings. I have experienced this firsthand when we decided to let the girls watch some of our faves like Three Men and a Baby, for example. I forgot those guys were whores before the baby came along. But even this seemed extreme to me.
I kept watching with them. Because at this point the damage was done and I wanted to see how it played out. Maybe I was overacting? The show was funny, and it ended with a good message. One I would be ok with…save with the mention of porno and threesomes. I checked and yes…it surprisingly had a PG rating on Netflix.
Thing is, I’m not sure I’m cool with them watching a show with those themes without me being aware. I had the filter on their profiles set to PG (for Scar) and PG-13 (for G). I thought that was safe?
Sex is an adult topic. It’s not taboo for us to talk about and I don’t want them to think it is but…..I don’t think a 9 yr old needs to be introduced to the topic of porn or threesomes. I’m a pretty open-minded…but I do draw lines.
I’m a transparent parent but the difference is that I don’t introduce topics like these to my kids unless they ask me for info or if it comes up in their lives through interactions with others. I don’t willingly expose them to shows or anything that would introduce adult themes to them. When it’s completely unnecessary.
There’s a difference.
The show ended….and I felt the need to open up a dialogue with them both. You know, in case they had questions.
“So…..after watching a show like that, do you guys have any questions? Are you not sure about anything and want to know more.”
To this, Gianna groaned and covered her ears. She’s was good. Didn’t want any more commentary on the matter. That’s cool. I’m cool, you’re cool, we’re cool.
However, my Scarlett…this girl does and says things just for the reaction. She looked at me and said “Yeah, I have a few questions, Mom. Like, how many positions are there? How many times have you had sex? When’s a good date to do it?”
Oh lord. Save me. At least she didn’t ask me to elaborate on what a threesome is…but maybe at that point, it was self-explanatory. Damn you, Netflix.